It's heartbreaking to have your teenage daughter ask what's wrong with her, that makes other people not like her. How do you teach someone how to be likeable? How do you help a teenager get past their sullen nature to blossom into the beautiful person that's lurking inside? How do you help someone understand that manners really do matter a lot, and that the way they sit sometimes presents a different picture to others than what they would want to portray? It's not like I haven't been trying to teach my daughter all about service, love, manners, consideration, and acceptance.
What's even sadder is to hear that a couple of my good friends have actually made comments about not liking my daughter. I'm assuming it was within the walls of their house where they thought the comments would stay, but kids talk... and unfortunately they've told my daughter, which makes her feel even worse about herself and leaves her feeling confused as to why these people don't like her, especially when they've pretended to to her face.
Honestly, I'm not sure why they don't like her either. Sure, she has her faults. She can be a sullen, moody, selfish teenager. But there's more to her than that. She's also got a great sense of humor, is a loyal friend, has a strong desire to do what's right, and has many incredible talents. Her teachers like her. Her best friend's mother likes her. I like her. So why don't YOU like her?
What more can I do to help my daughter learn to be more "likeable?" What is it that she's done (or not done) that she should change? I'd love some honest input on this because frankly, I'm stuck. She's a teenager and not always real open to the advice of her mother, but I'm happy to keep working at it because she's so worth it.
Feel free to comment anonymously because I'm sure my good friends won't want to admit openly that they're the ones who have said they don't like her. I'm not bitter or angry about it, just sad and confused and would love some answers.